The ten-level path
Identify happy vs sad. Then 3 emotions, then 5+. Match 1 situation to a feeling, then 3–4 situations. Choose 1 of 2 appropriate responses, then 1 of 3–4. A two-level thermometer (a little / a lot), then 4–5 intensity marks. A full scene: name the emotion → set intensity → choose a strategy.
Play when calm
This is practice for later. Do not open a new feelings level in the middle of a tantrum. Name, measure, choose — then hug.